You see... My friend is getting married, this Saturday to be exact. She's been busy lately, so have I, so you can assume we weren't meeting as often as with our other (different) group of friends. However about 2h I got a text message with an invitation to her wedding at church. As a reminder I want to add that today is Thursday. I thanked and politely declined, though with a little bit of evil subtext ("you sent the news too late, I got plans!").
But now... Let's rewind and look at the facts.
- Clue #1: I knew she was looking for a wedding photographer almost a year ago.
- Clue #2: When I was away for May weekend someone else called with the news "Did you know that M. is getting married in October?!" Person who called me has another mutual friend with the girl who is the bride-to-be this Saturday.
- Clue #3: two weeks ago another random person of this drama calls me with question "Hey, do we have anything for M.'s hen party?" What was I supposed to answer? "Ya know... first thing I don't even officially know about the wedding and the second... I don't know nothing about the party."
- Clue #4: Facebook event added 2 days ago.
I understand Facebook addiction or creating events as a reminder there. I often use it on last.fm to remember when are the gigs I want to attend to. But creating such instead of a wedding invitation? SERIOUSLY?!
I am terrified how FB becomes the only way of communication. Few weeks ago I got an invitation to a party, the info was only there. Fine. Just when I was supposed to go out for some small shopping in the city and then go to the event. Luckily out of habit I checked my home page and there I found a notice. "Sorry, the party is cancelled. See ya next week."
Or the b-day wishes. My friend counter is slightly above 200 and most of people know each other. So whenever there's someone's birthday I got info that John Smith and 29849308 other people wrote wishes on someone's wall. I'm old fashioned, but I think it's sweeter to get a phone call or even a simple text message. It shows that you remember and put at least some effort in it. Even it's picking up the phone or clicking "send a private message" if you don't have the number.
I'm so old fashioned :s
Aye, I hate getting messages on NK and FB on my b-day. I got dozens of requests "Xyz wants to add your b-day date to his/her calendar - agree?" - "hell no!" I prefer to get wishes from those who remember. Before era of NK/FB it was aprox. one to five ppl (excluding family) and I remembered them for long time - now it's at least 20.. no real value of such wishes. Just answer automatic reminder from the script.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I could delete this info from my profile but .. well, who cares.
As for the wedding. Something like 2 weeks ago the friend of mine got married. I noticed that when I saw her comment signed with different last name. The same day someone asked me: have you been on the wedding ceremony? "Hell no! I wasn't aware that she is getting married!" - "No? She wrote that on her FB wall.." - "well, I have ~300 people in my "friends" list - I'm unable to follow 50% of all walls messages. I had to tell that at least 5 times - and every time people were surprised "you?! you are spending whole day in the Internet at work! you had to know..." - yeah, sure..
What's more funny, that person who got married. We were quite close, seeing each other at least every week, going by car for some trips..
Well, the world is changing. Sometimes it's not worth to catch it.
High five - my old fashioned friend :)